{"id":13678,"date":"2010-09-16T10:00:35","date_gmt":"2010-09-16T14:00:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.sierraexpressmedia.com\/?p=13678"},"modified":"2010-09-16T10:00:35","modified_gmt":"2010-09-16T14:00:35","slug":"attitudinal-change-how-to-respond-to-a-fellow-party-comrade-rather-than-reacting-to-fury","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sierraexpressmedia.net\/?p=13678","title":{"rendered":"\u201cAttitudinal Change\u201d – How to respond to a fellow party comrade, rather than reacting to fury"},"content":{"rendered":"

Comrades, if all what you read in the internet means something to you, please lets all be careful. Let\u2019s think of your brain as a juke box where most of your records, your reactions to different situations, were recorded well before your reached adolescence. Then, as life goes on and every time someone pushes your button, you automatically play the record that fits each situation.\u00a0 (Photo: Essa Thaim Kamara, author)<\/em><\/p>\n

Or-Bai,<\/em><\/strong> take for instance, being bitten by a big, black dog at age 3. As a normal child your brain would make a record called \u201cbecome afraid when you see a big, black dog.\u201d Now you are at the age of 28.<\/strong> You have forgotten the dog incident at age 3.<\/strong> You are walking down the street and pass a dog that is big \u2013 and you guessed it \u2013 black. You automatically feel anxiety and apprehension and you want to avoid it, even though it is behind a gate and it cannot harm you now. You find yourself thinking things like, \u201cBig black dogs are dangerous,\u201d and \u201cIt\u2019s better to walk on the other side of the street.\u201d \u2013 You\u2019re really frightened and petrified and so it is with many anger reactions. I always find people and situations that literally \u201cpush our buttons,\u201d and we respond just like that juke box that automatically pulls down a record and starts playing it. Of course, there are times when we should play the usual record. For instance, many social tribulations and political nemesis in our society are solved by people becoming righteously indignant and have the bold mind in taking action to correct an evil or a wrong.<\/p>\n

Retrospectively, anger gets people\u2019s attention very quickly and they will then start taking us more seriously. But, 95% of the time, the negative far outweighs the positive when we lose control of our anger feelings. The costs are usually high and the benefits low. We are not on personal emolument here in our political party.<\/p>\n

Most of the time, anger simply doesn\u2019t get us to what we desire or need in the first place and only makes things worse in terms of consequences to us, our \u201cvictims,\u201d and to the people like new political members who may witness it.<\/p>\n

Comrades, rather than reacting to fury that make you sparks off from everywhere, here are few steps you can learn how to choose and deal with the situation \u2013 to Respond<\/strong> rather than React repulsively<\/strong>.<\/p>\n